Navigating a Military Divorce in San Antonio: What You Need to Know
Table of Contents
- What Makes a Military Divorce Different from a Civilian Divorce?
- Where Should You File for a Military Divorce in San Antonio?
- How Is Military Retirement Divided in a Texas Divorce?
- What Are the Custody and Visitation Rights for Deployed Parents?
- How Do the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act (SCRA) and Other Laws Affect Your Case?
- What Role Do Military Divorce Attorneys Play in Your Success?
- Additional Resources for Military Families Facing Divorce
- Emotional Considerations During a Military Divorce
- Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
- Conclusion & Call to Action
1. What Makes a Military Divorce Different from a Civilian Divorce?
Key Differences:
- Jurisdiction complications: Military families often move frequently, making it difficult to determine where to file.
- Service of process: Special rules apply when serving divorce papers to an active-duty member.
- Division of military benefits: Including pensions, TRICARE, and the Thrift Savings Plan (TSP).
- Deployment impact: On custody, communication with children, and court scheduling.
- Residency requirements may differ depending on where the service member is stationed versus the legal domicile.
2. Where Should You File for a Military Divorce in San Antonio?

Filing Requirements:
- Texas residency for six months and
- Bexar County residency for 90 days.
Military-Specific Considerations:
- Legal domicile: A service member may retain a legal domicile in another state for tax or voting purposes but still file in Texas if stationed here.
- Deployment status: If one party is deployed, it may delay filing or affect court appearances.
- Agreements: You may file in the state where both parties agree if allowed by law.
Tip:
Always confirm with a Texas family law attorney to file in the proper court and state. Mistakes in jurisdiction can delay the process or result in unenforceable orders.
3. How Is Military Retirement Divided in a Texas Divorce?
Federal Law: USFSPA

Key Rules:
- 10/10 Rule: For direct payment from DFAS, the spouse must have been married to the service member for at least 10 years, with 10 years of overlapping military service.
- Not Automatic: Even if the 10/10 rule isn’t met, a spouse may still be awarded a portion payment just won’t come directly from DFAS.
- Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP): This must be addressed in divorce or settlement agreements. After a service member’s death, it provides ongoing benefits to a former spouse.
Additional Considerations:
- VA Disability Benefits: Generally not divisible as marital property, but may impact the amount of retirement pay divisible.
- Court orders: The language must be precise for DFAS to process the retirement division.
- State law: Determines what portion of the retirement is considered community property.
TSP (Thrift Savings Plan):
Health Benefits and Commissary Privileges:
If a marriage lasted at least 20 years, with 20 years of overlapping service, the non-military spouse may be entitled to full TRICARE coverage and base privileges. This is commonly referred to as the 20/20/20 rule.
4. What Are the Custody and Visitation Rights for Deployed Parents?

Texas Family Code: Custody Provisions for Military Parents
- Temporary custody orders Can be issued during deployment.
- Designation of caretakers: A deployed parent can designate someone to exercise their visitation rights.
- Makeup visitation: Deployed parents are often allowed additional time once they return.
- Communication orders: Courts may include virtual visitation or communication rights.
Best Interests of the Child:
Deployment Orders:
Courts may expedite hearings or temporarily adjust parenting time when one parent deploys. Judges often show deference to military obligations but will require documentation.
5. How Do the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act (SCRA) and Other Laws Affect Your Case?
SCRA Benefits Include:
- Postponement of court proceedings: If military duties prevent attendance.
- Protection from default judgments: If the service member doesn’t respond.
- Reduced interest rates: On pre-service debts.
- Stay of proceedings: Up to 90 days or more in some cases.
This act ensures service members are not disadvantaged simply because of their duties. Understanding these protections is crucial for a fair legal process if you or your spouse is on active duty.
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6. What Role Do Military Divorce Attorneys Play in Your Success?

- Interpret federal and state military-related statutes
- Ensure proper service and legal procedure under military rules
- Negotiate military benefits like SBP, TSP, and housing allowances
- Draft deployment-proof custody orders
- Prevent delays through proper SCRA handling
- Protect your rights during mediation or litigation
In San Antonio, military divorce attorneys must understand local laws and the military lifestyle. A skilled lawyer anticipates deployment conflicts, understands base housing issues, and knows how to value military pay structures properly.
7. Additional Resources for Military Families Facing Divorce
- Military OneSource: Offers confidential non-legal support, counseling, and referrals.
- Legal Assistance Offices: Many military installations have legal offices that can guide on essential legal matters.
- Defense Finance and Accounting Service (DFAS): This service offers detailed resources about military retirement, SBP, and pay division.
- Texas Attorney General – Child Support Division: Assists with support enforcement.
8. Emotional Considerations During a Military Divorce
Mental Health Impacts
- PTSD and combat stress can complicate communication and conflict resolution.
- Isolation during deployment may make emotional healing slower.
- Feelings of guilt or abandonment, particularly for children, can emerge if one parent is frequently away.
Impact on Children

- Frequent relocations
- School transitions
- Parental deployments
Co-Parenting Challenges and Opportunities
- Parallel parenting during high-conflict periods
- Co-parenting apps that track schedules, communication, and shared expenses
- Parenting coordination services to mediate ongoing disagreements
Community Support
- Military spouses’ support groups
- Veterans’ organizations and online forums
- Faith-based counseling and community outreach programs
9. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. Can I file for divorce in Texas if I’m stationed in San Antonio but claim residency in another state?
2. Will I still get part of my spouse’s retirement if we were married for less than 10 years?
3. Can custody arrangements be modified if one parent receives deployment orders?
4. Do I need a military divorce attorney, or will any family lawyer do?
5. How long does a military divorce in Texas typically take?
10. Conclusion & Call to Action

At Tess House Law Firm, we have the experience, empathy, and legal expertise to guide military families through the divorce process in Texas. Our San Antonio attorneys are well-versed in Texas family law and federal military regulations, ensuring your case is handled with care, clarity, and strength.